How to remove a bridesmaid without losing the friendship
Removing a bridesmaid usually ruins the friendship, leaving many unsure how to actually have that conversation. The main difficulty is finding a way to demote a close friend or maid of honor without causing permanent damage to the relationship.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
Found another way around this?
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- 1Treating the removal as a mutual decision based on feasibility and changing circumstances.Did this help you?
- 2Just communicating her role instead of explicitly saying she is not the MOH if it was never formally askedDid this help you?
- 3Cutting ties and ending the friendship entirelyDid this help you?
- 4Being direct, honest, and standing your ground despite the potential falloutDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I just do not know how to go about telling her I do not want her to be the MOH anymore.”source ↗
“Usually when you remove a bridesmaid, the friendship is over. Has anyone removed one and remained friends with them?”source ↗
“Unfortunately we talked about her being MOH a lot before she did this, so it needs to be some type of convo relating to her not being it.”source ↗
“Funny enough - I just had to do the same thing with someone I called a very close friend for years...”source ↗
Where this came up
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