Why does my toddler act out only with me?

“Lately, like the past six months or so, her tantrums have become so extreme I don't know how to handle them.”source ↗

“She always twists what we say into meaning we don't love her.”source ↗

“It is exhausting and the tantrums can last for hours. I don't know what to do anymore.”source ↗

“My 4 yr old is a psychopath. She makes me want to kill myself. Everything is a fight. She will have a tantrum for hours!”source ↗

“I put her in the cart and I’m spending the next 40 mins trying to shop while she is screaming, kicking, unbuckling .”source ↗

“I hate this life. I can’t do anything with my 6 yr old out in public bc it’s embarrassing and so difficult to deal with my 4 yr old.”source ↗

“What do I do I’m sobbing right now. I don’t want to be her mom anymore.”source ↗

“My kids (3 and 4) literally would melt down if they stayed up beyond 8pm”source ↗

“I screamed at my 4 year old this evening. There’s been a pattern of him not listening and every evening is a battle to put pjs on.”source ↗

“After 45 minutes of threatening, no this, no that…if you don’t put them on…. I just lost it and screamed so loud “PUT YOUR PYJAMAS ON” and I frightened him.”source ↗

“I have a daughter who recently turned 3 and is exhibiting the typical “3yo behaviour” and I’m just currently at the point where I want to cry/scream/throw up all at the same time”source ↗

“how did you guys get stronger and not let the other people staring effect you?”source ↗

“My wife didn’t like me saying “when you’re done crying let me know” while I was listening to music bc I can only take so much.”source ↗

“Is parenting essentially “just doing the thing” while your kid screams their displeasure in your face a thousand times a day?”source ↗

“He screams his head off the whole time but we still do the thing.”source ↗

“Is there really no way to avoid the screaming resistance?”source ↗

“Last Thursday my daughter had a meltdown because she didn't want to wear her jacket to school. she's 5 and it was in full tears sitting on the kitchen floor..”source ↗

“My first instinct was to do the parent thing and just say 'put it on we are late'”source ↗

“watching dave bulldoze that pitch and then catching myself about to do the same thing to a kindergartener in the span of three days was a weird wake up call”source ↗

“Our daughter is 2.75yo, and is currently running through multiple phases at the same time”source ↗

“When I feed my newborn my 2.5 year old wants me to put him down.”source ↗

“in the night she can have a full meltdown, kicking and screaming.”source ↗

“It’s like we got over the honeymoon phase at school and now at school and at home he is a menace that will challenge you on everything.”source ↗

“He was such a great eater until he started school. Now everything is usually No I Don’t Want It.”source ↗

“The big issue, as hes grown hes only gotten more angry/aggressive. We will be having a pleasant chat and he will switch like a light and bare his teeth and say "im so mad!" he practically shakes with anger.”source ↗

“It just breaks my heart to see him so miserable, and honestly i have so much mom guilt for not enjoying being around him sometimes.”source ↗

“Something changed when she was 15 months old. It’s progressively gotten worse and now she just seems so upset all the time.”source ↗

“She’s actually pretty good with language but she throws tantrums all the time and everything seems like a fight.”source ↗

“I’m dreading that my 2 year old will be this difficult forever. I’m just hoping she’ll somehow revert back to the easy temperament she had as a baby.”source ↗

“Multiple times a week. Kiddo is a happy, sweet kid most of the time, but when they get set off — usually about something small like it’s time to get out of the bath — we still have these huge meltdowns.”source ↗

“my kid hit the exact same wall when he started K. the emotional regulation tank is completely empty by the time they get home, they've been holding it together all day and you're the safe person so you get the volcanic eruption version of a 5 year old”source ↗

“I have a 3 year old, she is always having a tantrum and it’s becoming unbearable.”source ↗

“I just don’t know what else to do. It’s hard to take her to the park or to the grocery store or anywhere without it becoming a whole public scene where we have to pick her up and carry her kicking and screaming every time.”source ↗

“I’m out of ideas, I hate the fact that we basically hide inside the house all day just to avoid another public meltdown.”source ↗

“for the past few months, she’s been getting upset and throwing things on the floor.”source ↗

“I honestly don't know what else to do. Is this just a phase?”source ↗

“I’ve been noticing when it’s my weekend with the girls, I’m having a hard time with my youngest daughter when she gets super upset. She’ll either start screaming and/or start slapping me or her sister.”source ↗

“when the girls go back to mom’s I go into a spiral of shame thinking im the worst parent in the world because maybe I’m being too stern. Like I’ll literally be alone Sunday night just crying because I feel like a terrible father.”source ↗

“I cried every day when my daughter was 3. Every. Single. Day.”source ↗

“Since starting kindergarten she seems to be so volatile in her emotions. With every disappointment or if something doesn’t go her way she resorts to screaming, throwing, fighting, etc. I really don’t know how to get through to her and I’m feeling so defeated.”source ↗

“She has always been our tantrum kid since she was a toddler. How do I help her?”source ↗

“She only acts like this at home and with people outside of family she holds it together. Is this just normal 6 year old big feelings?”source ↗

“My daughter just doesn’t seem to do well when all the children from multiple classes come outside and has a meltdown crying for me to pick her up.”source ↗

“I’ve no idea what to do, I want to make it easier on her so any advice is welcome.”source ↗

“These days my toddler is always in a bad mood. Most of the day is spent in whining and groaning loudly and continuously.”source ↗

“He alternates between being angry and throwing things, stomping and then whining and asking to be carried.”source ↗

“I'm so annoyed and frustrated”source ↗

“At what age should they stop? And at what point should you start reaching out about them?”source ↗

“I have a 20 month old boy, and he's been crying over very small things or even nothing at all.”source ↗

“I'm a first time parent and I'm concerned with his behavior.”source ↗

“Lately i feel like i have a pretty short fuse and do tend to outwardly show angry with tone of voice, and i probably get a little louder but not really yelling.”source ↗

“but what about when there is nothing tangible to be angry about? like is it really handling an angry emotion when it seemly comes on out of nowhere/ unprovoked”source ↗

“My wonderful, sweet, spunky 3.5 yr old is a delight with everyone except for me.”source ↗

“In the mornings she has meltdowns and fits but once she is with the nanny or at nursery she suddenly snaps out of it- why?!?”source ↗

“I’m really struggling with my darling little lady.”source ↗

“Every day I feel like a failure and i'm not sure when this stage is going to be over and get better.”source ↗

“I am constantly stressed, he’s always crying, things he learned he has suddenly unlearned, always testing boundaries and I feel like I just cannot win most days.”source ↗

“I try to keep it together, I really do, but my patience just wears thin and I snap then I feel terrible.”source ↗

“He doesn’t sleep anymore, he doesn’t eat, he doesn’t leave me alone and “punishes” me any time I need a break.”source ↗

“That’s the thing, we are doing this, it’s the “we’ll turn around and go home” and we do, every time, but she just doesn’t stop. It’s every day honestly I’m just giving up on doing anything because it’s literally unbearable.”source ↗

“My daughter is 16 months and entering the phase where she literally immediately just shrieks at the top of her lungs if she doesn’t get what she wants. I’m at a loss for how to discipline her at such a young age.”source ↗

“I feel like a fraud bc I told the preschool teacher my son isn’t picky, will eat absolutely everything, goes to the potty independently, and speaks clearly and confidently. So far none of those things are true at school.”source ↗

“When we were first starting to wean she’d barely eat anything at home, and then we started hearing from her teachers “she’s such a good eater, she asked for seconds””source ↗

“Another example, she wants to take off her socks, shirt, pants herself. But we’re in a hurry and I want to help her. No, helping her is meltdown recipe.”source ↗

“You were obviously overwhelmed, in which case you can remove yourself completely for a short period of time if necessary.”source ↗

“I found that trying to talk to him during the tantrum, or trying to offer other things, only made him worse.”source ↗

“Thanks, I should have said sorry but I didn’t.”source ↗

“Thank you, I didn’t acknowledge it wasn’t right and I should have.”source ↗

“The past few days the tantrums have been so bad. The screaming the kicking. She's fed she's eaten she's napped all of the things. I cried today I'm so stressed.”source ↗

“Not to mention she's going through a sleep regression and screams between 1-2 am until I bring her in my room.”source ↗

“The thing is she slept through the night perfectly and then something changed about a month ago 😩”source ↗

“She was sleeping through the night until a month ago nothing changed. I mostly do the CIO but her scream is so high pitched it's awful”source ↗

“these last months his aggression has been getting so so bad.”source ↗

“Anything he used to enjoy he ruins (his favorite meal is instantly thrown, bath time he pulls the plug then is pissed).”source ↗

“If he has his mind set on shoving his brother he'll do it and when I interrupt that he'll start attacking me with everything he has.”source ↗

“We sit to play, he slaps me across the face randomly, timeout, then let him out, we sit down to play then he throws a toy at the window, the toy is taken away, he screams until he remembers he has a brother to shove or a cat to pull on. It's. Nonstop.”source ↗

“Also how do I make sure he doesn't become the bully because he's already abusing me, his brother and cats and I feel like I've tried everything.”source ↗

“It probably happens twice a month with my 5 year old. Mainly when she is overly tired.”source ↗

“My 7 year old still has tantrums.... my 14 year old cries if you look at her wrong.”source ↗

“Yesterday I stood my ground and put him in his room after he wouldn’t stop throwing a toy at my face and his response to that was to wail like he was dying for 5 minutes and stripped out of his clothes and peed all over his bed like whyyyyyy.”source ↗

“My 3 year old son absolutely hates the word no. To the point he either cries, gives out, slaps or screams at the top of his lungs.”source ↗

“sometimes we have to say no for whatever reason and he hates it and gets upset and starts yelling.. I'm tired of it.”source ↗

“Ours are frequent and 30 minutes long at 5. They've been so extra bad since starting kindergarten that we literally tonight just canceled our booked trip to Disney at the end of the month 😫”source ↗

“Not all transitions. Things like not getting the snack they want, not getting screen time when they want or having to turn it off when screen time is over, etc. Had one the other day about getting dressed for school.”source ↗

“my kid started kindergarten this fall. ever since, it’s like a switch flipped. he is argumentative over everything (i mean it, EVERYTHING!), and the smallest corrections to his behavior result in huge breakdowns.”source ↗

“Sounds just like my 5 year old that just started kindergarten 😭”source ↗

“I’m just struggling because I can move on but he continues to throw things and scream and hit and I don’t know how else to teach him that it’s not only not okay to do that but that there are consequences for poor behavior…”source ↗

“I’ve tried talking to him during a neutral time but he just says okay and doesn’t seem to take what I’m talking to him about seriously. I’ve tried to leave him for longer periods to allow him the space he needs but he just goes and goes and goes”source ↗

“My 27 MO has been wanting to do everything herself, if I did something out of the order of things in her mind, it’s meltdown city.”source ↗

“Is this Too harsh? Do I have unrealistic expectations? For context, he has always been very ahead in his language skills, speaks in full sentences, he says pleases and thank yous other times (obviously not all the time). I don’t want to raise a spoiled brat but obviously I’m also feeling guilty. Help!”source ↗

“Have a 5.5 year old boy who has pretty extreme tantrums after being told no. Today was a pretty bad one where he would not stop hitting mom.”source ↗

“A few months ago he randomly started screaming and throwing himself around and hitting stuff and me and throwing things. I don’t want him to get away with things and I don’t want him to grow up and be a jerk. He doesn’t listen to me.”source ↗

“I checked back on him every 3-4 minutes to ask if he was ready to try again and he continued screaming and slamming himself into the walls and trying to hit me and rolling around on the floor.”source ↗

“The last few weeks though every drop off has lead to huge melt downs. Screaming, crying, pushing or throwing things and just refusing to let go of mom.”source ↗

“Mom is getting concerned because she thinks they’re not safe here and that’s why they don’t want to come.”source ↗

“My issue is that occasionally if the girls cry enough mom will just take them back home. I believe that’s why things are getting worse.”source ↗