Why does my child behave at school but act out at home?

“He's absolutely wearing us down and I don't know what to do.”source ↗

“I feel like I can’t take them anywhere and I’m always embarrassed by how they behave and how they do not listen to me.”source ↗

“I am left feeling embarrassed, overstimulated and discouraged and basically feel like I can’t bring them to do anything anymore.”source ↗

“I’m struggling for ways to manage the attitude and sheer lack of respect she seems to have for me in particular.”source ↗

“If I firmly tell her no to certain behaviours she will say the same things right back to me telling me she doesn’t like my behaviour.”source ↗

“I’m afraid I’m ruining his future by not figuring out why he acts so differently at school, to help him function as they expect him to.”source ↗

“I’m not sure how to best support the school with these issues and it’s extremely taxing for me as I blame myself for him not behaving as expected.”source ↗

“He is currently in school and has received reports of his unwillingness to nap, testing limits and defiance.”source ↗

“Now, they want to have a conference about his behavior and I’m so confused. I’ve noticed a change in his behavior since his attending the school- he has become more aggressive, he says things we don’t say at home, etc.”source ↗

“Our daughter constantly lashes out at home and is very mean, especially to her brother.”source ↗

“The problem or challenge is that she is perfectly fine when she is at school or out in public.”source ↗

“We are at a loss for what to do with her.”source ↗

“It just feels hopeless..”source ↗

“Same, and similar ages. It’s HARD. Not everyone understands. I’ve become such a homebody because everywhere is hard.”source ↗

“I have noticed him being more silly at home, things I consider disrespectful like blowing raspberries or pulling up his shirt and drumming on his belly.”source ↗

“It sounds like he has been disruptive and not really listening when being asked to calm down, though the teacher didn’t say it like that.”source ↗

“I’m mortified that he has been this disrespectful but I don’t know how to address this.”source ↗

“whenever we sit down to practise his phonics the silliness goes up a gear!”source ↗

“My LO does this when she is feeling overwhelmed/trying to avoid something. She really struggled with it at school because it moves so fast.”source ↗

“We are experiencing this too with our five year old boy. Sweet as pie to strangers, but with us? He’s the worst.”source ↗

“Same with my almost 4 yr old boy. It does seem he’s testing us, but it is brutal at times.”source ↗

“i am just at a loss. i was a rule follower if nothing else while i was in school.”source ↗

“i am just at a loss. im defeated by him constantly telling me no and trying to be sneaky and just fighting me on everything. i dont know what to do. please please help.”source ↗

“And I can't stand him. Toddlers are emotional terrorists. And just do nothing but stress you out. I'm actually not okay dealing with this.”source ↗

“Why is my toddler a mess around me?? 6 months is when he just became mental. 10months walking and it was hell from there.”source ↗

“Everyone always says he's great, for anyone looking after him he's wonderful. Why me??”source ↗

“5 year old daughter in generally chill/predictable after school etc but we notice after we get our 18month old from nursery she gets so chaotic, randomly loud, jumping on us”source ↗

“d the last 90 minutes is us trying our best not to not tell her to calm down every 2 mins/tell her off / her end up in a mood”source ↗