How to ask parents to handle wedding guest outreach
Delegating wedding guest outreach to parents means having them handle direct contact, gather mailing addresses, and chase down late RSVPs for their respective sides of the family. This prevents couples from having to awkwardly cold-call extended relatives they barely know, streamlining the information-gathering process while keeping communication within family circles.
What people tried
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- 1Vetting the guest list together before letting parents make contactDid this help you?
- 2Giving parents talking points or specific instructions for contacting distant or flakey relativesDid this help you?
In their words
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“I guess the part that stresses me out is actually contacting people out of nowhere. As long as we agree on the list I’d like them to contact family.”source ↗
“We put my mom/MIL in charge of all information gathering for each side of the family. Filling in mailing addresses, tracking down relatives who were late with their RSVPs etc.”source ↗
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