How to share a wedding registry with people not invited
Sending a registry link to uninvited guests comes off as a rude gift grab and makes people feel solicited for presents when they aren't being hosted. This puts couples in an awkward position when uninvited friends and family genuinely want to send gifts but cannot find where to buy them.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
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- 1Waiting for guests to ask directly before sending the registry linkDid this help you?
- 2Leaving the registry unshared and letting non-attending guests send cash or a card insteadDid this help you?
- 3Directly messaging non-attendees individuallyDid this help you?
- 4Setting up a registry privately and only sharing the link with guests who explicitly ask for it.Did this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Do we make a registry to give them ideas?”source ↗
“Would it be rude to just ask for donations toward our honeymoon/future house down-payment?”source ↗
“How do we ask politely while also not wanting to ask at all?”source ↗
“I suppose what I'm trying to say is, if we have friends and family on the invite list but people are having a hard time finding the registry link (their words, not mine), what do we do?”source ↗
“I would think it doubly odd to be solicited for gifts when I’m not being hosted.”source ↗
“I’d think it was rude-you’re not inviting them to your wedding and not paying for the get together. It comes off as gift grabby.”source ↗
“Very rude to link a registry when you aren’t hosting an event of any kind. I’d be so put off if I saw that”source ↗
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