Why do I keep yelling at my students out of frustration?
When students repeatedly ignore noise expectations after multiple reminders, frustration builds up and causes teachers to raise their voice. This reaction leaves teachers feeling immediately guilty and struggling to find alternative methods that actually get the class quiet.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Giving yourself a strict limit like 5 yells a year
- 2Raising your voice intentionally for dramatic effect rather than out of anger
- 3Using an eerie calm or a stern dad voice/look instead of screaming
- 4Bottling up anger and reverting immediately back to a chill manner
In their words
Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.
“when I have raised my voice, I immediately felt bad after. I knew I shouldn’t have lost my cool, but dammit. We’re human too.”source ↗
“More than I would like to. After the 4th or 5th time of reminding my class of the noise expectations... I raise my voice. Trying to do it less. Struggling to find anything else that gets them quiet.”source ↗
“When I was younger and in my early/mid-twenties: more than I should have.”source ↗
Where this came up
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