Why is my toddler staying up until midnight refusing to sleep?
Toddlers are fighting bedtime hard and staying awake until midnight or two in the morning, regardless of whether they nap or skip naps entirely. This extreme resistance turns bedtime into a grueling one to two-hour battle and leaves parents completely exhausted, making it nearly impossible to function or get anything done during the day.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Kicking daytime naps unless she is clearly tired
- 2Trying to wake her up early and adjust her sleep schedule
- 3Repeatedly attempting to resettle her every 30 minutes to an hour
- 4Letting her cry it out late at night
- 5Trying different routines, sleep hygiene, awake windows, and breastfeeding changes
- 6Experimenting with cosleeping and different rooms or beds
- 7Enrolling the child in daycare to break sleep associations
- 8Letting the child stay awake and accepting challenging behavior
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I’m SO exhausted from my toddler’s (2 year old) sleep. 😭”source ↗
“Bedtime can take 1–2 hours (same for nap) and she fights sleep like it’s her full-time job. 😭”source ↗
“My 21 month old daughter is fighting sleep HARD.”source ↗
“Now, for the two months or so she’s been refusing to nap at all during the day half the time, and other times needs a nap and it doesn’t matter if it’s a 30 min nap or a 2 hour nap- if she naps she is up until 12am at least.”source ↗
“Even without a nap, she’s up until 12am or 2am (give or take).”source ↗
“I’m in the same boat with my 15 month old. Used to nap for like 3 hours a day. Lucky if I get an hour now and now he’s waking up at 4:30am every. Day.”source ↗
“It’s so hard to function on little sleep or even get things done during the day with a non sleeper.”source ↗
Where this came up
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