Why is my toddler staying up until midnight refusing to sleep?
Toddlers are fighting bedtime hard and staying awake until midnight or two in the morning, regardless of whether they nap or skip naps entirely. This extreme resistance turns bedtime into a grueling one to two-hour battle and leaves parents completely exhausted, making it nearly impossible to function or get anything done during the day.
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+57 alternative community-tested workarounds cataloged below.
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Why is my toddler staying up until midnight refusing to sleep?
- 1Kicking daytime naps unless she is clearly tiredDid this help you?
- 2Trying to wake her up early and adjust her sleep scheduleDid this help you?
- 3Repeatedly attempting to resettle her every 30 minutes to an hourDid this help you?
- 4Letting her cry it out late at nightDid this help you?
- 5Trying different routines, sleep hygiene, awake windows, and breastfeeding changesDid this help you?
- 6Experimenting with cosleeping and different rooms or bedsDid this help you?
- 7Enrolling the child in daycare to break sleep associationsDid this help you?
- 8Letting the child stay awake and accepting challenging behaviorDid this help you?
- 9Partner lays or sits on the child's bed until she falls asleepDid this help you?
- 10Moving into the child's bedroom to sleep in their bed every nightDid this help you?
- 11Consulting a doctor and speaking with the child's schoolDid this help you?
- 12Considering letting the child cry it out using cold turkey boundariesDid this help you?
- 13Sitting in the room and rubbing their back for hours until they fall asleepDid this help you?
- 14Laying down with the child on a mattress or mat on the floor until they go to sleepDid this help you?
- 15Consistently walking the child back to their bed every time they get up, ignoring crying, and minimizing interactionDid this help you?
- 16Using audiobooks, nightlights, or bedtime checking timers to keep them calmDid this help you?
- 17Leading the child back to bed and telling them it is sleep time repeatedlyDid this help you?
- 18Riding it out, assuming it is normal developmental behaviorDid this help you?
- 19Having one parent sleep in the child's room to prevent them from waking up other siblings.Did this help you?
- 20Allowing the child to climb into the parents' bed in the middle of the night.Did this help you?
- 21Upgrading to a King or California King bed to comfortably fit the child when they co-sleep.Did this help you?
- 22Laying with the child until they fall asleep, then sneaking out.Did this help you?
- 23Using a treasure box as an incentive for staying in bed all night.Did this help you?
- 24Putting a baby gate at the bedroom door so they stay in their roomDid this help you?
- 25Walking the child back to bed repeatedly without interactingDid this help you?
- 26Delaying the transition and switching back to a cribDid this help you?
- 27Using an okay to wake light to signal morningDid this help you?
- 28Establishing routines with a galaxy projector or storiesDid this help you?
- 29Timing naps exactly the same as daycare to keep up the routine.Did this help you?
- 30Trying a nap mat instead of a crib.Did this help you?
- 31Letting the child lay in the crib until they eventually nod off.Did this help you?
- 32Capping late naps to one hour so it does not push bedtime later.Did this help you?
- 33Dropping the nap entirely and shifting to a significantly earlier bedtime.Did this help you?
- 34Replacing nap time with independent 'quiet time' using a visual timer or color-changing light.Did this help you?
- 35Co-sleeping or having family rest time in a large floor bed just to get some midday rest.Did this help you?
- 36Relying on car or stroller naps.Did this help you?
- 37Putting a full-size bed in the toddler's room so a parent can lay with them to help them sleep.Did this help you?
- 38Asking the child to pretend to be asleep and praising their acting skills.Did this help you?
- 39Tiring the children out with extra physical activities and running around during the day.Did this help you?
- 40Making it a game to close eyes and mouths after reading stories and giving hugs.Did this help you?
- 41Lying down with them and stroking their hair or back while guiding them to close their eyes.Did this help you?
- 42Co-sleeping and laying in the bed with them until they finally fall asleep.Did this help you?
- 43Giving in to delay tactics like fetching milk or snacks after hours of trying.Did this help you?
- 44Shifting bedtime significantly later (e.g., 10 PM) so sleep pressure builds up.Did this help you?
- 45Dropping daytime naps and switching to 'quiet time', even if it makes them cranky.Did this help you?
- 46Having the other parent handle bedtime if the toddler fights less with them.Did this help you?
- 47Implementing an hour of 'dark quiet playtime' in low lighting before attempting sleep.Did this help you?
- 48Implementing a structured 'quiet time' in the child's room instead of a forced nap.Did this help you?
- 49Using screen time or putting on a specific TV show to keep the child distracted while the parent gets a break.Did this help you?
- 50Shifting the child's bedtime an hour earlier or later to compensate for the missed nap.Did this help you?
- 51Taking stroller walks or putting the child in the car to pass the time or encourage sleeping.Did this help you?
- 52Continuing to offer the nap consistently every day for several weeks in case it is just a phase.Did this help you?
- 53Reverting to rocking or walking the child to sleep.Did this help you?
- 54Lying in bed with the child until they fall asleepDid this help you?
- 55Pushing bedtime back to a later hourDid this help you?
- 56Allowing quiet 'lamp time' for reading in bedDid this help you?
- 57Limiting or removing bedtime audio playersDid this help you?
- 58Using a silent return-to-bed method without engagingDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“how currently my 5 year old fights to keep his eyes open, until he eventually falls asleep .”source ↗
“Seriously at our wits end... unless we're literally sitting in her room rubbing her back for hours, she just will . not . sleep!!! she will call us endlessly, come out of her room, turn her light on in her room and goof around.”source ↗
“I’m SO exhausted from my toddler’s (2 year old) sleep. 😭”source ↗
“Bedtime can take 1–2 hours (same for nap) and she fights sleep like it’s her full-time job. 😭”source ↗
“Most of them will keep fighting it with wide eyes until their battery just drains right in front of you.”source ↗
“She will not sleep on her own anymore, and refuses to get into her bed/bedroom without her mum present otherwise she will scream at the top of her lungs, crying, begging for her mum to stay and sleep with her for hours on end until her mum gives in.”source ↗
“At the moment my partner is having to lay/sit on the bed until she falls asleep, but any time the bed creaks or if she moves, our 7 year old will spring awake and freak out and scream again.”source ↗
“My 21 month old daughter is fighting sleep HARD.”source ↗
“Now, for the two months or so she’s been refusing to nap at all during the day half the time, and other times needs a nap and it doesn’t matter if it’s a 30 min nap or a 2 hour nap- if she naps she is up until 12am at least.”source ↗
“Even without a nap, she’s up until 12am or 2am (give or take).”source ↗
“My son dropped his nap around 2.5 years old when I was in my second trimester. By my 3rd trimester he would take naps with me occasionally, or I’d put the tv on in my room and snooze while he climbed around on me.”source ↗
“I really feel like I’ve been doing something wrong and I’m failing as a mom ruining in his sleep habits lol”source ↗
“My kid was a sleep refuser, and it just came down ultimately to she had lower sleep needs than other kids.”source ↗
“Oh, that feeling of failing at sleep absolutely resonates. But please try to remember it’s not under your control, and anyone who says it is, was lucky enough to have a good sleeper and just thinks it was their skills 😅”source ↗
“The last week has been awful trying to put him down for a nap. I’ve tried 11:30, 12:30, 1:30 and it takes an hour or more to put him down.”source ↗
“I don’t want him to be overtired and be fussy towards the end of the day, and also I’m a SAHM. I’m exhausted. I need some space and this is the only time I can get things done 😭”source ↗
“Mine stopped napping at 18 months. Sorry, Mama. As a sahm, I know how much this sucks.”source ↗
“I could never fall asleep before 10 since I was like 5 no matter how early I needed to be up. My daughter was the same.”source ↗
“I’m in the same boat with my 15 month old. Used to nap for like 3 hours a day. Lucky if I get an hour now and now he’s waking up at 4:30am every. Day.”source ↗
“It’s so hard to function on little sleep or even get things done during the day with a non sleeper.”source ↗
“She went from sleeping brilliantly, even falling asleep on her own, to being absolutely unable to sleep without a parent with her (preferably me, her mum).”source ↗
“They both like us to lay with them. We’ve seldom gotten them to lay down peacefully. It always would turn into tears and stress. After years of this. We just lay. We read. We stay. Sometimes until they sleep.”source ↗
“I would stop rubbing her back and just sleep next to her. I have a mat for my kids room and I just fall asleep peacefully.”source ↗
“Now when we leave, after 1 minute he will hop out of bed and come find us.”source ↗
“This has been going for 2 hours every single night for two weeks. Till he finally succumbs to sleep”source ↗
“I know how he feels but I would also like to get a goodnights rest without him kicking me in the head 30 times 😅”source ↗
“our 3 year old has started going through a getting in phase after being our good sleeper and I totally get the wanting to not be kicked in the head 😅”source ↗
“Any advice for getting my almost two year old to stay asleep at night time?”source ↗
“And I’ve tried to transition her into a big girl bed, but all hours of the night she’s coming into my room (which is fine) just exhausting for the both of us.”source ↗
“Lately she’s been skipping naps, and refuses to go to bed and tears everything from her bed out.”source ↗
“Mine did before 2, and there was definitely an adjusting period of a few months when bedtime was so hard.”source ↗
“I know with mine, once they get overtired from skipping a nap or staying up late or getting up early, it spirals and gets worse until we can force it back on track.”source ↗
“My daughter will scream when you put her down probably half the time”source ↗
“I have no advice but my 27 month old still wakes up in the middle of the night screaming. Every single night. I feel your pain.”source ↗
“My (nearly) 21 month old resists naps on weekends lol she thinks she’s home with mom, dad & siblings and it’s time to have some fun, not sleep.”source ↗
“My guy dropped his nap at home around 2. He’s 4 now and still naps at daycare. It just does not make sense.”source ↗
“My daughter stopped napping as soon as I weaned her at 2, she’s also always been extremely low sleep needs. Sucks but it did bring bedtime a lot earlier”source ↗
“Mine tells me with certainty every night..."I can't close my eyes" and minutes later 😴”source ↗
“Yeah I have that model too. Great power, great range, just no way to turn it off.”source ↗
“When you find out, let me know! My 4 year old swears up and down that she sleeps with her eyes open 😂”source ↗
“I’d love to know the answer as my 4.5 year old still goes to sleep by doing longer and longer blinks”source ↗
“My son who will be 2 next month has the hardest time accepting it’s bed time and just laying down.”source ↗
“Even when I’m in the bed with him it’s a constant fight of telling him to lay down or actually having to put him back in bed.”source ↗
“No matter how long the wake window is when we go to bed it’s 2-3 hours til he actually falls asleep.”source ↗
“It’s likely a phase. My kid went through it at 19 months. I’m glad I spoke with someone with an older child who did the same thing at 1.5.”source ↗
“Oh, I understand. It was a tougher transition for me than it was for her.”source ↗
“18 months sleep regression. Theres another at 2 years I wasnt prepared for 🙃.”source ↗
“Both my girls stopped around 18m. It sucked so bad 😅 definitely continued quiet time just without the nap.”source ↗
“my oldest stopped at 13 months. would’ve been 9 months if i wasn’t as stubborn as she is lol. and she had a late bedtime (like after 10:00). it didn’t matter 🤣”source ↗
“My 6-year-old has always been a late sleeper. What really helps us is I lie down with him until he goes to sleep.”source ↗
“He coslept with us until around 2, and since then he’s always needed one of us to lay with him until he falls asleep. He also wakes up every night asking if one of us will sleep with him or if he can come into our bed.”source ↗
“At this point my husband will often just go sleep in his room at the beginning of the night so everyone can get some rest”source ↗
“Baby is completely sleep trained and a fabulous sleeper at night and his teachers at school say he naps no problem but he will not nap for me.”source ↗
“Tried to crib today and it lasted maybe 20 and then he cried so hard he threw up 🙃”source ↗
“But in the last few weeks, he has been refusing naps. We’ve tried everything. ( pushing naps back, later bedtime, quiet time, naps on the go.) The only reliable way to get him to sleep is if he’s right next to me.”source ↗
“The issue lately is she's started staying awake later and later, to the point she's now often still awake at 9 or 9.30 despite being put to bed at 7. Sometimes she will get up regularly and pester us/ turn on her light and play/ open her curtains, and generally complain that she can't sleep or doesn't want to be by herself.”source ↗
“She has made comments that she wants someone to stay in her room with her while she falls asleep, but she has never needed this in the past and the last thing I want is to create a new crutch. Her biggest complaint is that she just can't fall asleep.”source ↗
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