How to handle guests who haven't RSVP'd by the deadline
When a large chunk of guests miss the deadline, planners are left uncertain about the final headcount and forced to spend hours tracking people down or considering hiring help. This leaves them overwhelmed and unable to focus on other planning tasks.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Reaching out individually to everyone who hasn't responded
- 2Setting a firm 24 to 48-hour deadline for non-responders
- 3Counting non-responders as a no if they don't reply by vendor deadlines
- 4Sucking it up and calling guests manually
- 5Having another family member help make the calls
In their words
Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I'm helping my cousin with some of her wedding planning, and I am feeling overwhelmed.”source ↗
“We are about 6 weeks out, and I got handed the RSVP list with 150 guests. Most guests replied on her wedding website, but there are about 50ish guests that have not responded yet.”source ↗
“Is there someone I can hire to help me call the 50 guests so I can focus on other tasks? Or is this not a good idea? Or should I just suck it up and do it myself/or have another family member help me?”source ↗
“I'm having a destination wedding and so far 47 out of 77 people have RSVP'd online. We are 8 weeks out and the deadline was September 7th. I have followed up with a few people, but I'm wondering if I should expect the rest to rsvp later or not at all?”source ↗
Where this came up
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