How to stop kids from taking forever at bedtime
Children get sidetracked by every distraction at arm's reach, taking an ungodly amount of time to complete basic tasks. Juggling a toddler who takes an hour to fall asleep with hand-holding alongside an older sibling makes the time from the afternoon school run to bedtime feel completely chaotic. This massive source of frustration leaves partners at odds about how to change it.
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How to stop kids from taking forever at bedtime
- 1Giving verbal countdowns tied to removing bedtime stories as a consequenceDid this help you?
- 2Using visual timers or laminated bedtime checklists with dry erase markersDid this help you?
- 3Offering choices on task sequence or location to give the child a sense of autonomyDid this help you?
- 4Setting a fixed bedtime where story time is limited to whatever time remains after getting readyDid this help you?
- 5Parents performing routine tasks directly alongside the child to prevent distractionDid this help you?
- 6introducing a stuffy or alternative comfort itemDid this help you?
- 7pushing bedtime laterDid this help you?
- 8gradually reducing hand-holding timeDid this help you?
- 9using a structured wind-down routine with books and lullaby musicDid this help you?
In their words
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“Hi everyone, just looking for some advice or to see what other parents with similar age gaps do because the time from the afternoon school run to bedtime is honestly such a rush and I have no idea how to plan it properly.”source ↗
“The problem is my 21 month old, she takes absolute ages to go to sleep, like up to an hour, AND she needs someone to hold her hand to fall asleep.”source ↗
“So I'm stuck holding my 21 month old's hand for an hour until like 8pm while trying to keep my 5 year old occupied on her own, and trying to fit dinner and bath time in before all of this just feels chaotic.”source ↗
“He will take an ungodly amount of time to do the most basic things, getting sidetracked by every possible source of distraction that is at arm’s reach.”source ↗
“This has been going on forever and of course is a massive source of frustration for both me and my partner.”source ↗
“Me and my partner feel like something has to change, but we are at odds about how to do it.”source ↗
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