Said It Here

Why do kids hate hobbies as soon as parents show interest?

When parents show active interest in a preteen's favorite activity, children often instantly reject it, calling it stupid or hateful. This sudden backlash creates an emotional gut punch for parents and prevents families from enjoying shared activities together.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

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    Buying items and putting them in a closet so children eventually ask to borrow them
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    Using the uncool factor strategically to deter undesirable behaviors
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    Waiting for children to transition to new interests or hobbies
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    Stopping forcing the child to participate in the specific activity
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    Finding alternative physical activities or sports that the child actually enjoys
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    Pursuing the hobby independently or coaching without the children participating
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    Engaging in much more casual, low-pressure versions of the activity

In their words

Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.

r/Parenting4 people · September 2026 – October 2026

“Well, when I told him about it, he immediately said the game was stupid and just started putting them in a binder to never be played with or in his closet.”source ↗

Street_Buyer402 · r/Parenting · 102 upvotes

“I really wanted my kid to love baseball. It’s the sport I know best. I love watching it. I love playing it. I love baseball. My child? Nope. It was a gut punch.”source ↗

wooordwooord · r/Parenting · 11 upvotes

“At 11, the quickest way to ruin their favorite hobby is showing any personal interest in it lol”source ↗

bored-eviee · r/Parenting · 1 upvotes

“My kids don’t want to bike but we really want to be a family that bikes together. How can I encourage this?”source ↗

“I asked him after what he thought of it and he said he hated it and would have rather been home. This is absolutely heartbreaking to me.”source ↗

lllleeexxx · r/Parenting

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