Why do kids hate hobbies as soon as parents show interest?
When parents show active interest in a preteen's favorite activity, children often instantly reject it, calling it stupid or hateful. This sudden backlash creates an emotional gut punch for parents and prevents families from enjoying shared activities together.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Buying items and putting them in a closet so children eventually ask to borrow them
- 2Using the uncool factor strategically to deter undesirable behaviors
- 3Waiting for children to transition to new interests or hobbies
- 4Stopping forcing the child to participate in the specific activity
- 5Finding alternative physical activities or sports that the child actually enjoys
- 6Pursuing the hobby independently or coaching without the children participating
- 7Engaging in much more casual, low-pressure versions of the activity
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Well, when I told him about it, he immediately said the game was stupid and just started putting them in a binder to never be played with or in his closet.”source ↗
“I really wanted my kid to love baseball. It’s the sport I know best. I love watching it. I love playing it. I love baseball. My child? Nope. It was a gut punch.”source ↗
“At 11, the quickest way to ruin their favorite hobby is showing any personal interest in it lol”source ↗
Where this came up
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