What to do when your child is excluded by a friend

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

1. 1
   Skipping social events or birthday parties to avoid watching the child get excluded
2. 2
   Taking the child out for 1:1 treats like ice cream instead of attending parties
3. 3
   Having frank discussions with the child about hurtful behaviors before and after hangouts
4. 4
   Encouraging the child to make other friends and letting natural social dynamics play out
5. 5
   Encouraging children to stand up for themselves rather than stepping in directly
6. 6
   Letting children handle minor social conflicts on their own with parental support

In their words

Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.